" When a girl decides that you're her friend, you're no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like her brother, or a lamp "
There are multiple different ways to approach this subject, whether you are friend-zoning someone or you're the one being friend-zoned. Either way, it's awkward.
If you're being friend-zoned and you want to get out of it and start a relationship:
So you liiiike your friiiiend!!! ooooh! The first thing you need to do is think about your friendship with this girl. Are you two the sort of friends that are overly touchy with each other? Do you guys text constantly? Are there smileys? Does she not talk about other guys around you?
If so, then I would say you're already halfway there. Now, you just need to plant the idea of you two being more than friends. Tell her that you want some one on one time with her. Do something that you two don't normally do together. When the right time comes up, you can straight out tell her that she means more to you than just a friend and you want to see if you can take your relationship to the next level. If you know what I mean ;) Haha, totally kidding. Seriously though.
If you're trying to friend-zone someone:
Is she always super touchy-feely when shes around you? Does she always initiate late night conversations? Are you not leading her on, its just a one-sided flirtationship?
This is even more awkward... Ok, first. Distance yourself a little bit. Not too much so that you lose her as a friend, but stop making her think that something can happen between the two of you. If she usually snuggles up to you while the two of you are watching TV. Sit somewhere else. Start talking about other girls, maybe even ask her advice about them. If all else fails, straight up tell her that you feel like she thinks things are more than they actually are. Tell her that although you love her dearly as a friend, that is all that you love her as. Once again, DO NOT lead her on. Don't make her feel like she has a chance with you when you are really not interested. Otherwise you're just wasting her time.
Now on a side note:
Think about it. The best relationships stem from friendships. Although you think you may want to friend zone this girl, take a second and consider all the things you really like about her. It's easy to talk to her, she already knows most of your secrets and she genuinely likes the real you. She might just be the girl that you'll end up with. Who knows.
<3 KAK & EAV
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